The ego is an inseparable force within us—one that travels down the path of life, situating itself firmly in our consciousness. Without being able to identify and separate from the ego, a person will certainly be controlled by it, as there’s no way to delineate thought patterns and sources. Given that so many people are completely dominated by their egos, we felt it was important to take some time to share information that will provide the necessary tools to identify and work toward liberation from such a powerful and controlling force.
What is the ego?
Now, before we continue, it’s important to note that the ego is a mental construct that exists within the conscious mind of every human being. Each person is different and unique, as is the ego within that individual. Some people have egos that make them feel better than others, while some people have egos that make them feel worse. Regardless of the ego’s intention, it is clear that there is a control mechanism taking place that helps it to empower itself.
How does the ego control me?
The ego has a very powerful tool that it uses for control—as well as to empower itself. By presenting specific memories that will subsequently trigger feelings, the ego has the ability to manipulate an individual, leading him or her to act in response to its desires. Oftentimes, all the ego needs to do is present a thought that is associated to a past trauma; this will elicit an emotional response. It is this response that will cause the person to react from a place of pain—making decisions and saying things that might well be regretted later.
How can I control my ego?
It is especially important to note that attempting to control the ego will only empower it, as the ego loves confrontation. The best way to deal with your ego is learning to identify the thoughts and memories it uses—and then not following its lead. When a thought comes into your mind, the first question you must ask is, “Does this thought serve me?” If the answer is no, then there is a very high likelihood that the source of the thought is the ego—and you should not chase or follow it.
A very useful tool for learning to identify and peacefully co-exist with the ego is meditation. In a past blog post we spoke in depth about this practice and how helpful it is to calm the mind. By using meditation, you will be able to see more clearly how and what thoughts are being presented—and then be able to determine whether they serve you or not.
Acupuncture is also a useful tool that can be used to calm the mind. From a Traditional Chinese Medical perspective, racing and uncontrolled thoughts are a disharmony that can be addressed using acupuncture and Chinese herbs. A practitioner can help identify what the root cause may be and work toward resolving it—thereby providing peace and harmony.
